Reprogram Your Mind - How To Always Stay Positive

By Monica B. Nice

Although sexless marriages may appear on be on the outside to most people unhappy and un fulfilling - for many couples living this life this is not so. These couples have learnt how to stay happy/positive in a sexless marriage by finding other ways to be intimate with each other.Most of the time it is not a subconscious decision - over time couples find that their sex life begins to decline due to varying reasons such as routine, caring for children, working long hours and lost libido. For these couples their relationship may be totally fulfilling in every other way - but there just is no or very little physical intimacy by the way of sex.

Intimacy between two people does not only come in the physical sense. There is also emotional intimacy - and this is how many couples manage to stay happy who are in sexless marriages and relationships. Emotional intimacy between two people can be very powerful and can overcome many obstacles in a marriage - including the issue of no sex.

Don't be engrossed in yourself. Thinking about other people and helping them out may do you more good than you can imagine. Give money or clothing to a charity whenever you can.Keeping a journal that lists things you are thankful for is a great idea. The truth is that you have a lot of things to be thankful for everyday. Losing a job may seem like the worst thing that can happen to you, but you can be thankful for having a roof over your head and food on the table, can't you? Similarly, you may not be on speaking terms with your mother, but you do have a loving husband and friends. Be thankful for the things you have, instead of worrying about things you don't. Write in your journal everyday and make sure to have a look at it whenever you are feeling down.

What are you grateful for,Keep a journal of things you are grateful for. Take the time each day to jot down what you have valued from your day or what you are thankful for. Do the same about yourself. What are your personal strengths? What do you like about yourself? Focus on and remind yourself of these reasons to be happy everyday and you're sure to chase those negative vibes away.

It's nothing personal.People can often get into the bad habit of talking negatively. It can be aimed directly at you or simply be about a myriad of other things that are going on in that person's life. It's hard to face an onslaught of negativity, especially when you are the target of it. But remember, that this is their issue, not yours. If their criticism is unfounded, you can be sure that the complaints are probably just a way for the person to vent. Take a breath, put on a smile and tell yourself, "It's not me, it's them."

Reminisce.Think about times in your life when you have felt the happiest or most positive. Allow yourself moments to reminisce about these times and put a smile back on your face. Believe that more of these times can be created in your future."Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life, which the Lord has promised to those who love Him" James 1:12

When "Sandy" came and shut off the power in my house, my family quickly came together and prepared for the storm. My mother was ahead of the game and had the materials we needed laid out on the table. Candles were lit. The portable radios were on. The board games and cards were laid out. And of course, there was lots of snacks. My family and I were ready for the storm.

Remember: you get to choose the people in your life,We are not physically attached to every person we deal with day in and day out. It is okay to cut out anyone who brings absolutely no positive value to your life. Friends, family, coworkers, spouses- if they just don't want to be a part of your positive lifestyle, then it's okay to limit contact with them or do away with the relationship altogether. There is a whole world of people out there who can make you smile, so don't waste your happiness on those who don't want to share it.

What do you do to stay positive every day? Have you had to make some tough decisions about who stays and who goes? Let us know! The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today. Quote by, Charles W. Eliot,When life hands you a lemon, are you prepared to make lemonade? Try staying positive when everything around you is negative. It is essential for your health and well being. More importantly, the way you think, feel and act determines the outcome of your experience. So, why not make it a great experience by guiding your attitude toward one that is positive.

The final point on how to Stay Positive throughout life, or your next storm, is to have MIND CONTROL! There are going to be times in your life where it is so bad that you will start to become depressed. Not having heat in your house during the winter could slowly alter your mood and cause frustration. Many people fall to their emotions and remain confused and frustrated about a situation. However, in order to Stay Positive throughout life, you must always keep a positive attitude. You must be able to quickly flipped the switch and look at the bright side of things. You must tell yourself that my cup is not half empty, rather it is overflowing. In order to accomplish this, you must have MIND CONTROL.Here are some tips on how to use mind control during your next storm,Keep with you an object that immediately puts a smile on your face.Collect quotes that brighten up your day.Create a poem or song that you can recite to keep you focused.

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